Fear Not: a Christian non-negotiable
Fear feels right; reality feels wrong Fear can seem so rational, logical and right. It feels safe and real and true. It certainly presents in such a way as to...
Understanding Personality Types: introversion extroversion
P ersonality types arise from that aspect of your identity that is a relatively predictable, stable and organised set of psychological traits that influence how you respond to your environment....
Why Moralizing demoralizes: #10 Negative Thinking Styles
What is moralizing? When one attempts to influence the behaviour of another or make comment or observation based upon a self-righteous sense of superior understanding, we moralize. Hands down all...
Transforming the Personalisation Problem:#9 Negative Thinking Styles
Define Personalisation Personalization occurs when we interpret the events and responses from our environment as being directly because of something we are responsible for, in a manner that is disproportionate...
Challenging Overgeneralisation:#8 negative thinking styles
Defining Overgeneralisaton Overgeneralisation happens when we take a limited sample, from a limited scope/perspective and make a general belief out of it. Generalising is a helpful process to sort and...
Dealing with emotional reasoning:#7 negative thinking styles
L ogic is the primary helpful process in the rational evaluation. Logic evaluates what can be seen or reasonably predicted based on fact. Emotional reasoning evaluates and predicts on the...
Greyscale black and white thinking: #6 Negative thinking styles
I remember clearly when I learned in parenting that we don’t call the child “good” or “bad”. It’s better to just deal with their behaviours and find a better adjective....
Labelling:#4 negative thinking styles in relationships
D riving down the road with a car full of kids one afternoon, I was irritated by a driver who pulled in front of me to turn left. “Idiot” I...
Catastrophizing!!!!!:#3 Negative Thinking Styles
'Henny Penny’ or ‘Chicken Little’ is an age-old fable which identifies the folly of assuming the worst possible outcome drawn from a perception of an event or possibility: catastrophizing. An...
Rebound from Jumping to conclusions:#5 Negative Thinking Styles
T he conclusion of any scientifically credible essay summarises all that has been written; all the data analyzed and all the pros and cons of the hypothesis tested. When...
Catastrophizing!!!!!:#3 Negative Thinking Styles
'Henny Penny’ or ‘Chicken Little’ is an age-old fable which identifies the folly of assuming the worst possible outcome drawn from a perception of an event or possibility: catastrophizing. An...
Filtering positives:#2 negative thinking styles
Have you ever had one of those days when it seems that every traffic light you come to is red? How is it that on the days when they are...
Mind your mind:#1 negative thinking styles
T here were three people waiting at the bus stop on a blustery wet morning. The bus they were going to catch, slows down, indicates that it is full, and...
Why do we compare ourselves to others?: #5 of 12 Negative thinking styles
I 'm standing in the queue in the supermarket with 4 kids in tow; variously in, on and around the shopping trolley. The young lady behind me is beautifully quaffed...